When guys picture sex with two women, they probably imagine a lot of what happened last night:
-Sprite and me, lying side by side on the bed masturbating as Rowdy watched and took pictures. (You can't see, sorry. Sprite and Rowdy are not quite as freely exhibitionistic as I am.)
-Rowdy fucking Sprite while fingering me, and fucking me while fingering her, and her fingering him while he fucked me, and vice versa, and every conceivable other confguration. Including him fingering me while fucking me. That was new and sort of amazing.
-Rowdy and I making an, er, Eiffel tower over Sprite, and Spirte and me making a slightly diffrent one over him.
-Me working all five fingers into Sprite--an experience that left me amazed at the sheer strength of her vagina, which seemed more likely to hurt my hand than vice versa. Vaginas are awesome.
But I don't know if they picture all the three-way cuddling and talking and joking that goes on. Things that might not be on your Threesome Bucket List:
-An a capella rendition of Green Day's "Time Of Your Life.
-Pillsbury Doughboy impressions.
-Me, just after fucking Sprite and bending down to kiss her: "That was amazing, baby. No homo."
-Just as we were drifting of to sleep in a big pile and a warm fuzzy haze, a wayyyyy too extensive discussion of everyone's pooping habits.
-Me in the bed with Rowdy and Sprite as they fucked, about 98% asleep and feeling... okay with it. I was neither impelled to engage with them nor ignore them, but just to let it happen and feel happy and calm about it. It's a wonderful and funny thing to be 6 inches away while two people you're attracted to are having sex, and feel neither awkward nor jealous nor really aroused, but cosy.
What's Rowdy and Sprite's relationship? Spouses? Bf/gf? Fuckbuddies? I don't think you ever said.
ReplyDeleteI've toyed with the idea of open relationships myself but I'm not sure I'm made of stern enough stuff. It'd be nice to know that a couple can have threesomes - ones where the third person is completely accepted and involved and not just a "fluffer" for the other two - and there are no jealousy issues.
Actually, it just occurred to me that the "triangle vs. V" thing is probably the biggest key to making that work. My bf and I are both bi-curious but I think we're both into the opposite sex more; so if we had a threesome, one of us would therefore be enjoying it more than the other, and the other may feel some resentment/competition. Whereas if both of us wanted to bang the shit out of the third person...hmmmm.
p.s. I have it on good authority that a sex act is only "gay" if your balls touch someone else's - so you're safe. :D
ReplyDeleteIt's a wonderful and funny thing to be 6 inches away while two people you're attracted to are having sex, and feel neither awkward nor jealous nor really aroused, but cosy.
ReplyDeleteThat's the way it's supposed to be.
Sprite and I have been bf/gf for ~3 months, and poly (I introduced her to poly, she introduced me to kink). We've both hooked up with other folks, and we're open to either of us having more relationships than just this one.
ReplyDeleteAt least for us, I think, it works because there isn't a "third" person - like a ringer brought in for the big game - I'd still bang Holly if there weren't threesomes, and if she ever put her pants back on I'd date her too, she's an awesome fuck AND fucking awesome. We'd already hooked up before, and her and Sprite already got along very well. It was just luck that they have great chemistry in the bedroom too.
We both consider ourselves heteroflexible - most attracted to opposite gender partners, but a good fuck is a good fuck, right? I think more specifically, people of either gender turn us on, but we're most interested in relationships with an opposite gender partners.
Other pictures you might not imagine:
- morning-after brunch at a table for three
- cuddles & warm-fuzzies
Wrapper count: 13
"That's the way it's supposed to be."
ReplyDeleteAmen.
Second the morning-after brunch. Although we have to drag the kids along, so ours is usually a table for five.
ReplyDeleteCuddles, nearly always a good thing.
Glad you're having fun!
ReplyDeleteExtremely depressed that I'm not!
Rowdy - Well, *now*I have warm fuzzies. :)
ReplyDeleteAt least for us, I think, it works because there isn't a "third" person - like a ringer brought in for the big game - I'd still bang Holly if there weren't threesomes, and if she ever put her pants back on I'd date her too, she's an awesome fuck AND fucking awesome.
ReplyDeleteSee, for most couples (monogamous ones and some poly ones, too) that would be a dealbreaker. Generally it feels "safer" to have your fun times with someone your partner would never want a relationship with because then there's less worry that your partner will ultimately run off with them. But you're saying with you and Sprite it's better that you like Holly so much? I can't get my head around this arrangement at all...but I'm glad it's working for you. :)
And hey, at least Holly and Sprite don't have to worry that you'll run out of libido before they get a turn (a huge consideration for me when I think about having a threesome)! 13 CONDOM WRAPPERS OMFG. :D
I like it, Holly. There's a level of comfort with one another that I like. Good sex & friendship with one person has that. I've only been 1/3 of a few threesomes, but I'd have preferred that easy familiarity.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to all three of y'all on your good fortune!
It says something about me, I think, that I read this blog entry and went "Awwww! That's so lovely!".
ReplyDelete@Budd - Do you know anyone who's been 2/3 of a threesome?
ReplyDelete@perversecowgirl: Where would Holly 'run off with' me to? Maine? The Horror!
I'm not Poly just to stay sexed up until I find something better - I have an abundance of affection to give, and I revel in my partners' happiness independent of my enjoyment of providing them happiness.
I think you're making some critical assumptions that have just never held true for me:
- Love is a zero-sum game
...where giving to one means taking it from another. That's never been my experience, the more I give, the more I have - the only real limitations are time and energy.
- Love is Interchangable
... that if I had love for another person, I could swap it with my love for Sprite and my heart wouldn't know the difference - but it would. Relationships may wane and priorities change, but never will I meet someone I love the same... each new love builds itself a new place in my heart no other love can fill.
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It absolutely is better! It's brought us so much closer together, it really suprised us! (YMMV, though I'd still recommend getting your groove on with Holly for other reasons)
Sprite recently had a first date with a crush of hers, and I was just as giddy as she was about it. Sure, I enjoy making Sprite happy (very much enjoy), but why would I want to limit her happiness to only what I have the time and talent to provide? I'd be thrilled if she found happiness in another relationship, though by no means does she need to.
I like the idea that Sprite and I love each other - not because it's guaranteed and enforced by the confines of our relationship - but because we freely choose to. Imagine that.
- Rowdy