tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post1849765428483673476..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: Normal?Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-66405606229603681952010-08-16T18:01:11.325-04:002010-08-16T18:01:11.325-04:00Maybe with some things how kinky they are depends ...Maybe with some things how kinky they are depends on just how you respond to them? For me hair-pulling is a whole load of awesome, more than "this is kinda cool" and as for leather belts, I hope I never stop being surprised by how turned on they get me.<br /><br />When the act can become satisfying by itself, rather than part of a package including more conventional sex, I reckon that definitely counts as kinky (but then it's a fetish, isn't it?).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-59876270401134803152010-08-12T17:13:54.220-04:002010-08-12T17:13:54.220-04:00The hat's fine. Far be it from me to criticiz...The hat's fine. Far be it from me to criticize people for lively dress choices. Knock yourself out, the world will be a more colorful place. I only mentioned it to make a point about telling Holly what to write.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-87409616027406756682010-08-12T11:29:53.674-04:002010-08-12T11:29:53.674-04:00Mouse darling, you are so feisty. I like that. My ...Mouse darling, you are so feisty. I like that. My comment was poorly constructed, I meant to imply that I like reading this blog FOR the other posts that are less concerned with 'being normal'. It was a reverse compliment...<br /><br />My fur hat is hilarious. I am from Canada. Don't hate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-86781808624022110302010-08-12T09:46:34.357-04:002010-08-12T09:46:34.357-04:00Anonymous at 7:03, skritching is gentle scratching...Anonymous at 7:03, skritching is gentle scratching for the scratchee's non-SM pleasure, like when you scratch someone's back for them or scratch a dog behind the ears.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-82619745280202120372010-08-11T23:27:34.689-04:002010-08-11T23:27:34.689-04:00Alice said, Stop worrying about this 'normal&#...Alice said, <i>Stop worrying about this 'normal', it makes for tired blog posts and from reading your blog only briefly, I assume you are much more interesting than this.<br /><br />Also, the people you work with sound tragic. Maybe you should get a more stimulating job?</i><br /><br />Shit yeah, all of us out here think lifesaving, insane patients and the occasional FBI agent is old news. I mean, who would make a <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0108757/" rel="nofollow">TV show</a> about something like that? Also if you want to get anywhere in this blogging field you should get a really big fur hat and some lipstick.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-75935248161480816742010-08-11T20:12:04.234-04:002010-08-11T20:12:04.234-04:00I have the most repressed group of coworkers on th...I have the most repressed group of coworkers on the planet, and yeah, we had a similar conversation concerning vibrators. <br /><br />The hair-pulling thing...I am not sure. I love having my hair pulled, but I veer into the kinky realm, so I don't know. I know my ex husband was completely disgusted when I told him I wanted him to pull my hair...and he was pretty vanilla. <br /><br />The skritching thing? I know a lot of people who do that...so I think it's just a "thing" with people who are really "touchy" in general.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-67351494873964410652010-08-11T19:57:40.876-04:002010-08-11T19:57:40.876-04:00Before you can answer your question about 'nor...Before you can answer your question about 'normal' behaviour, I think you need to define 'normal' first. Stop worrying about this 'normal', it makes for tired blog posts and from reading your blog only briefly, I assume you are much more interesting than this. <br /><br />Also, the people you work with sound tragic. Maybe you should get a more stimulating job?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-63983945735524564902010-08-11T17:09:34.838-04:002010-08-11T17:09:34.838-04:00Man, I hope your spouse is either as asexual as yo...<i>Man, I hope your spouse is either as asexual as you are, or you let them play the field, 'cause otherwise, that's just cruel.</i><br /><br /> Bingo! Exactly like that! Those are the only possible options and compromise is impossible! Nobody believes it when we say it works for <i>us</i> and we are happy, and so I remain closeted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-53916236132017445252010-08-11T10:26:52.178-04:002010-08-11T10:26:52.178-04:00Anonymous@1044 wrote: I'm over on the asexual ...Anonymous@1044 wrote: <i>I'm over on the asexual end of the spectrum, and if I came out with something like, "Actually, I'd be perfectly happy to never bother with sex again," at work, I would be stuck spending the rest of the season putting up with well-meaning busybodies demanding that I justify my marriage.</i><br /><br />Man, I hope your spouse is either as asexual as you are, or you let them play the field, 'cause otherwise, that's just cruel.<br /><br />----<br /><br />I don't know many "normal" people (computer security / hacker types tend to be more kinky than average, in my experience.) but that may change when I start working for an ambulance service. My wife works at a local hospital, and says she has to keep a pretty tight lid on things, because of the Sexless McJudgypants folks there. So, I suppose I'll just have to see if the EMTs are, if not kinky themselves, at least not judgemental of those who are.perlhaqrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920117742664645165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-62088666040829556302010-08-11T09:14:26.790-04:002010-08-11T09:14:26.790-04:00I agree with Anonymous (12:22).
I'm not so su...I agree with Anonymous (12:22).<br /><br />I'm not so sure it's a kink thing so much as a social/affectionate thing--people don't generally pet and cuddle with coworkers, which means that if the only people you know outside of work are kinky people, then kinky people are the only people you know who are affectionate like that. Doesn't mean vanilla people aren't.<br /><br />(and maybe this isn't a representative sample, but every girl I know, kinky or not, owns a vibrator)aebhelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-78899494641274998582010-08-11T08:15:52.292-04:002010-08-11T08:15:52.292-04:00I had no idea that having a vibrator is not normal...I had no idea that having a vibrator is not normal :D <br /><br />(Then again, I don't live in US so I have no idea what is and is not normal there:)Spektrioenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-87078856194716403152010-08-11T08:09:07.656-04:002010-08-11T08:09:07.656-04:00"Scritching?" There's a special name..."Scritching?" There's a special name for it? Huh.<br /><br />I'm a vanilla who likes to keep various kinks in rotation, and I've never considered hair pulling to be kinky. So either it's not kinky or I'm actually a pervert (and considering how many sex blogs I'm addicted to that is a very real possibility). <br /><br />And maybe I'm surrounded by secretly kinky people, but I've rarely come across women with the "icky things he wants" attitude. I only know one, and there are so many issues in her relationship that it's probably not about the actual sex. I don't see any pearl clutching when it comes to many kinks.Angienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-75491726207680661752010-08-11T07:03:27.560-04:002010-08-11T07:03:27.560-04:00What on earth is scritching? Some crazy American t...What on earth is scritching? Some crazy American thing...?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-955248963727816162010-08-11T01:05:15.893-04:002010-08-11T01:05:15.893-04:00I have to slightly disagree with you, Aaron.
While...I have to slightly disagree with you, Aaron.<br />While liking those elements may not make you a pervert, it will likely make you a slut (if you happen to be female (used as an adjective, not a noun ^_o (I don't know what that emoticon is actually doing.)) (I don't know why I'm in the mood for nested parentheticals.)), at least in the eyes of most people who aren't perverts (in a broad sense). At least that is the sense I've gotten. It's unfortunate and slightly hypocritical.lxrnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-74313928392035406192010-08-11T00:39:17.861-04:002010-08-11T00:39:17.861-04:00There are some "tropes", if you will, of...There are some "tropes", if you will, of kink that have bled over into the vanilla world to the point. Light bondage, sensual domination, certain elements of roleplaying (schoolgirl outfits with pigtails, anyone?) have all become at least enough of part of our societal schema that they don't stamp you instantly as a pervert.<br /><br />At least, unless you're talking to Judgy McJudgerJudge, in which case, if you like sex in the first place you're probably a pervert.<br /><br />Scritches aren't kinky; they're just awesome.<br /><br />With stuff like vibrators, it might be worthwhile to take a "Really? I don't see what's wrong with owning a vibrator. Are we Puritans here?" kind of tack. At least, that's my attitude when I deal with my (vanilla) friends! :) And you occasionally get people to at least pretend to address their biases and assumptions.Aaronnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-54740250785718360722010-08-11T00:22:53.933-04:002010-08-11T00:22:53.933-04:00I think the spectrum of what's truly "nor...I think the spectrum of what's truly "normal", in the sense of actual frequency, is far wider than we care to acknowledge. You probably have coworkers who are a little more adventurous, and who might like the occasional hair-tug, but they're certainly not going to say much about it at lunchtime in the presence of Sexless McJudgypants there.<br /><br />BTW, lurker here who enjoys your musings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-60231459952556400222010-08-11T00:10:17.512-04:002010-08-11T00:10:17.512-04:00I don't think normal, vanilla people know what...I don't think normal, vanilla people know what normal and vanilla is like, because part of being normal and vanilla is not really talking about it.<br /><br />I'm kinda like LabRat as to touching, with a milder general reaction and a super narrow "loving it" circle. I mildly dislike being touched by anyone until there's both trust and actual romantic interest, then I love it.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-6302823263855537342010-08-10T23:22:59.306-04:002010-08-10T23:22:59.306-04:00Yeah, second scritching as a geek-culture thing th...Yeah, second scritching as a geek-culture thing that perverts happen to heavily overlap with. I tend to save it for privacy/intimacy, but I just plain out and out hate being touched much by people not within a certain circle of intimacy to me, then switch to loving it a lot. *shrug* Then again I'm told I give off a "touch me and I'll break your hand off" vibe even when I'm being friendly, so I've never had to deal with unwanted scritch.LabRathttp://www.atomicnerds.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-90051137317620750692010-08-10T22:56:06.965-04:002010-08-10T22:56:06.965-04:00I think scritching is a geeky/nerdy/LARPy thing ar...I think scritching is a geeky/nerdy/LARPy thing around here, which overlaps with perverts. <br /><br />Hair-pulling like you mean it, I bet that's just kinky, and most people are thinking gentle teasing tugs that you'd hardly notice. Vanilla people might go handfuls-of-hair, but I'm thinking they'd be unlikely to go yank or to control the person by where their head is. <br /><br />I think the bumper sticker is advocating two "kinky" things, from a vanilla perspective. Anal sex is totally out there, remember?<br /><br />If they start giving you joke vibrators, I hope they at least give you nice ones.Miettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-43732899970424273602010-08-10T22:44:47.159-04:002010-08-10T22:44:47.159-04:00Is 'icky things he wants' non-vanilla sex ...Is 'icky things he wants' non-vanilla sex or is it sex at all? I'm over on the asexual end of the spectrum, and if I came out with something like, "Actually, I'd be perfectly happy to never bother with sex again," at work, I would be stuck spending the rest of the season putting up with well-meaning busybodies demanding that I justify my marriage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-43151705579418597572010-08-10T22:38:08.362-04:002010-08-10T22:38:08.362-04:00My non-pervert (as far as I know) friends in high ...My non-pervert (as far as I know) friends in high school used to scritch (perverted) me, for what it's worth. But I sort of egged them into it, I think.<br /><br />--AndyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-30554047475041072632010-08-10T22:09:58.707-04:002010-08-10T22:09:58.707-04:00People who are a lot closer to the "normal&qu...People who are a lot closer to the "normal" end of the spectrum than the "disgusting, dangerous pervert" end do scritch each other.Comrade PhysioProfhttp://physioprof.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com