tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post4619724045712381176..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: I'm not a bigot, give me a cookie.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-34902768466398114332010-05-13T14:08:39.253-04:002010-05-13T14:08:39.253-04:00I've sent resumes to GLAAD and Lambda, and I w...I've sent resumes to GLAAD and Lambda, and I worry that on some level I want people to think "look how open-minded he is, he'll even work with homosexuals."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-49971803886986625922010-05-11T10:20:09.250-04:002010-05-11T10:20:09.250-04:00I'm with anon, and actually get much more anno...I'm with anon, and actually get much more annoyed by the "have a cookie" crowd. <br /><br />It's always been the norm to divide between "us" and "not us" based on fairly trivial differences. Consciously overcoming that can be a big deal, and internalizing the process to the point that you do it unconsciously _is_ awesome. Feeling good about yourself for it isn't merely justified; the good feelings further reinforce the behavior. <br /><br />Disparaging the impulse to feel good about yourself for doing good always strikes me as counterproductive and needlessly cynical. :\elmo iscariothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14710846725911318970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-76380337598690252392010-05-11T02:24:21.280-04:002010-05-11T02:24:21.280-04:00Actually, I don't think you're being that ...Actually, I don't think you're being that self-aggrandizing. <br /><br />People are xenophobic by nature. Maybe, as cities/workplaces/whatever get more diverse, people of all races will get used to each other and it won't be a big deal; but we're not there yet.<br /><br />So it <i>is</i> amazing when you treat a (very different-from-you) human like a human, because you're going against this huge innate drive to stick with your own tribe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-59782670804702071142010-05-10T20:51:12.427-04:002010-05-10T20:51:12.427-04:00It's a whole lot less assholish than expecting...It's a whole lot less assholish than expecting <i>someone else</i> to give you the cookie.<br /><br />But, still, yeah. I think part of what makes it problematic is, if you can pat yourself on the back for individual instances, it implies that they're unusual in some way. Which doesn't mean you're actively being a jerk the rest of the time; it could just mean your life is such that you seldom have occasion for it to come up - but there's privilege in that, too.<br /><br />SunflowerSunflowerPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069913788437731669noreply@blogger.com