tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post4645716589770155231..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: The Gentleman's Guide to Ogling.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-26013326433134815312014-06-15T18:10:06.522-04:002014-06-15T18:10:06.522-04:00If I could upvote you I would. I've never thou...If I could upvote you I would. I've never thought of it that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-62306055703921137352012-04-02T22:03:02.739-04:002012-04-02T22:03:02.739-04:00Best ogle I ever received was from a total strange...Best ogle I ever received was from a total stranger on a London escalator who, as I was yanking up my precarious jeans, said "don't pull it up, darling. You've got a great arse."<br /><br />He then merrily went on his way, and I on mine. It put me in a fantastic mood for the rest of the night. So there is definitely something to be said for non-creepy ogling.Poxynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-64101985452755188352011-09-28T05:43:24.351-04:002011-09-28T05:43:24.351-04:00As a male ogler this shit is super duper useful! A...As a male ogler this shit is super duper useful! Almost as good as the "how to not be creepy" article. They need to teach it in high-school, because some of those points were certainly not obvious to me :) <br /><br />Mad props, yo.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-39800389627479634742010-02-21T02:25:35.801-05:002010-02-21T02:25:35.801-05:00I've heard it said that aggressive catcalling ...I've heard it said that aggressive catcalling isn't a message to the woman at all. It's communication among men, sending messages like "I'm in with this group, I like what you like" and "I'm not gay."<br /><br />Just like, as far as I can tell, male penis size anxiety is much more about other men than about women, and female clothing anxiety is much more about other women than about men. (What I internalized from high school is "If you don't take a basic level of care with your appearance, other girls will hit you and steal your stuff." Boys hardly seemed to care.)Mary Kayenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-15802897527009442272010-02-19T22:19:05.906-05:002010-02-19T22:19:05.906-05:00I'm convinced that catcalling and shit like th...I'm convinced that catcalling and shit like that isn't meant as sincere flattery, it's meant as an exertion of power. "Look at me! I can make you afraid to walk down the street!"<br /><br />And yeah, the thing with compliments is that they need to come without any kind of expectation or tacit threat attached. Like Paradox, I can feel flattered by a compliment from ANYONE, so long as it's given with simple generosity. When the compliment has undertones of so-can-we-fuck-now? or I'm-thinking-of-sexually-assaulting-you, not so much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-67229040144237648612010-02-19T00:05:42.210-05:002010-02-19T00:05:42.210-05:00Guys who say "I'm sorry, I just was notic...<i>Guys who say "I'm sorry, I just was noticing that you're very pretty" get laid sometimes that way, or at least get treated nicely</i><br /><br />This for me is the crux of the matter. I can get all giggly and flattered by a comment like this and it will matter not at all what the giver looks like. It's just nice to hear (nicely!) that I look good.<br /><br />It's the creepy, clearly-not-expecting-an-affirmative-response thing that drives me bat shit. How on earth do you expect me to respond to "Nice belly!" or a smooching sound you make with your lips.<br /><br />I might even like cat calling (even at the high levels of my neighborhood where it's part of the culture) if it was all polite. That "pardon me, but" goes a looooooong way.Alyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08778985616893202661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-58134739203617855082010-02-18T22:25:16.534-05:002010-02-18T22:25:16.534-05:00Bruno - I really really don't like being touch...Bruno - I really really don't like being touched by strangers. I guess a little nudge isn't a serious offense but I'm not going to go on record in favor of it.<br /><br />Yeah, women (at least me and a bunch of the women I know) are really quite flattered when guys think we're hot--it's only a problem when they express that in disrespectful ways.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-74976135893456749032010-02-18T16:05:01.525-05:002010-02-18T16:05:01.525-05:00Personally I don't think even tapping someone ...<i>Personally I don't think even tapping someone on the shoulder without their permission is <b>ever</b> okay, but if you are the sort of person who does that, at least don't do it to anyone you're thinking about sexually.</i><br /><br />Seriously? I don't make a habit of grabbing random folks, but a tap on the shoulder or a nudge to the elbow is sometimes necessary.<br /><br />The rest of the post makes sense to me, though. One of the weird epiphanies I had to have (instead of picking it up at a developmentally appropriate age in the normal course of growing up) was that women sometimes <i>want</i> to be looked at.Brunonoreply@blogger.com