tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post5507135819456891258..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: The Praises of Phases.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-51513567028850128762012-01-13T05:51:30.547-05:002012-01-13T05:51:30.547-05:00I've thought a lot about the concept and impli...I've thought a lot about the concept and implications of "it's just a phase". My feelings about it are pretty much the same as your conclusions here, that even if something is a "phase" that makes it no less real in the present moment. <br /><br />My faivorite response to this kind of accusation is that "life is just a phase" :)Chris Littlesunhttp://thebentpentacle.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-12741722900045609532011-09-06T06:04:43.873-04:002011-09-06T06:04:43.873-04:00hey... i ran across this video, and i *immediately...hey... i ran across this video, and i *immediately* thought of you and the musings you've been having. it's entitled "when i was a boy" and it's beautiful and haunting and poigant and ... TRUE, damnit. i'm probably a bit more on the "girly" end of the spectrum than you are, in the sense that i have almost 5 feet of hair and love makeup and dresses [even if i'm now so disabled makeup and dresses and corsets and thigh-highs are too difficult, most of the time] but there were, and even still are, times when i wished i was male [like every time i've been told "you're a GIRL, you're not CAPABLE of understanding military tactics and strategy" right after i finished a presentation on military tactics and/or strategy that earned me an A...].<br /><br />http://youtu.be/IcOlkA3ghf4<br /><br />[ps Blogger is being screwy again, it won't let me post with my Blogger id. stupid thing]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-9307285322720528372011-08-31T18:09:06.452-04:002011-08-31T18:09:06.452-04:00LBT: That's kinda the point. Ritual is a univ...LBT: That's kinda the point. Ritual is a universal Pagan thing, sigil casting is more of a niche thing.<br /><br />Similarly, church is a universal Christian thing, whereas scapulars are a niche Catholic thing. (And I mean seriously niche--if I hadn't heard of them in Confirmation class, I wouldn't know they existed either.)<br /><br />http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/13508b.htmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-64954408468738431972011-08-30T13:41:52.290-04:002011-08-30T13:41:52.290-04:00Didn't know whether you saw this: http://jezeb...Didn't know whether you saw this: http://jezebel.com/5834712/is-this-comedy-monologue-a-rape-confession-%5Bupdated%5DBrunonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-74023177080468747072011-08-30T10:33:51.534-04:002011-08-30T10:33:51.534-04:00Anon - I'm the cafeteria-est of cafeteria paga...Anon - I'm the cafeteria-est of cafeteria pagans, so the answer to your question is basically "yes, but erratically, idiosyncratically, and very privately."Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-67191589982402361512011-08-30T10:30:50.544-04:002011-08-30T10:30:50.544-04:00RE: goth-is-not-emo
Man, I'm a Christian all ...RE: goth-is-not-emo<br /><br />Man, I'm a Christian all my life and I have no idea what a scapular even IS.<br /><br />--MacLBThttp://healthymultiplicity.com/loonybrainnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-72057982081441780972011-08-29T21:59:52.030-04:002011-08-29T21:59:52.030-04:00Anon: That's like saying, "You're a C...Anon: That's like saying, "You're a Christian? Do you go to church and wear a scapular and stuff?"<br /><br />Just so you know. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-84973100162359995182011-08-29T11:43:50.629-04:002011-08-29T11:43:50.629-04:00You know, I spent a good SEVEN YEARS insisting our...You know, I spent a good SEVEN YEARS insisting our multiplicity was "just a phase." I had to have it hammered into me that if I had told absolutely nobody, and I hadn't gone away, then I was probably not existing for the attention. We've now spent almost half our life multiple; maybe we'll go singlet again, maybe we won't. Either way, I'm not too concerned. (Except for Mac's sake; he'd be broken up if I integrated and left him a widower.)<br /><br />I also used to be a pessimist and a cynic. Now I'm an optimist. (That seems to surprise people; that transformation usually happens in reverse.) And asexual; now I have a glaring exception.<br /><br />Oh! Oh! And I used to snark bad Harry Potter fanfic!<br /><br />I find it fun to think how I've changed, and even funner to see how much I've NOT.<br /><br />--Rogan<br /><br />PS from Sneak: I heart your photos, Holly. I like connecting them to the posts.LBThttp://healthymultiplicity.com/loonybrainnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-78352738500691731222011-08-29T02:51:47.481-04:002011-08-29T02:51:47.481-04:00Wait, you're a pagan? Do you do rituals and s...Wait, you're a pagan? Do you do rituals and sigil casting and stuff?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-62801207663947048792011-08-28T22:00:04.092-04:002011-08-28T22:00:04.092-04:00@S_Morlowe
Your comment tacked onto mine is more...@S_Morlowe <br /><br />Your comment tacked onto mine is more of what I was trying to say. I am often quick to shoot off (ha HA!), and my post comes off a little more angry than it needed to be.<br /><br />However it is still annoying when people don't let you get on with your life... even if it's just your next phase! ;)Jay R.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-9725785813490790932011-08-28T18:22:08.596-04:002011-08-28T18:22:08.596-04:00Changes in myself sometimes are made more salient ...Changes in myself sometimes are made more salient by a chance encounter with someone from a previous phase. I sometimes think the way I am now somehow follows from ways I have been by necessity and then you connect with someone and realize both of you have gone down different paths.Then I sort of wonder what happened that I went down one path rather than another. It is neat that you have been documenting yourself so you have a point of reference. Sometimes I wonder if I just forget ways I have been and there isn't anything to challenge it. I am curious what you think about objects in your life. Like are there things that you own that sort of anchor your identity? Are there things that you aquire that mark a new self?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-80739439549932645252011-08-28T11:30:52.827-04:002011-08-28T11:30:52.827-04:00...ten years FROM NOW, not ten years ago. >.>......ten years FROM NOW, not ten years ago. >.>;; I need to proofread things better before I post them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-7492023327625391132011-08-28T11:29:11.634-04:002011-08-28T11:29:11.634-04:00I agree wholeheartedly on the whole "don'...I agree wholeheartedly on the whole "don't discount a phase" thing. Last year, when I'd been studying Paganism long enough to be pretty sure I wasn't just going to get bored with it in a few months or something, I told my mom about it.<br /><br />Her response was that my "questioning Christianity" was justaphase, and that ten years ago my devoutly-Catholic self would look back and laugh. The funny thing is, even though I was never fully comfortable with Catholicism, I don't consider the time I spent learning about it as wasted. (Except for the sex parts. OMFGs, the sex parts.)<br /><br />She also thought I was rebelling against authority and trying to be "cool" and "different" by using "that word" to describe myself. I was too shocked to tell her that I used that label because I felt like I finally FIT IN somewhere. And isn't that the point of experimenting, anyway? Trying to figure out where you fit?<br /><br />Going through a phase is NEVER a waste. You learn, you grow, and sometimes you end up with pretty interesting stuff in your room. :PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-81974250936624862492011-08-28T07:55:49.818-04:002011-08-28T07:55:49.818-04:00Another insightful post - thankyou!
I've had...Another insightful post - thankyou! <br /><br />I've had a number of identities literally and some people find this very hard to comprehend. I find its best just not to share with 'average' people!<br /><br />ANYWAY - I agree, being different people is a very good way to gain a different perspective and identity specific knowledge.Candicehttp://candicewing.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-34990270563459446842011-08-28T05:37:58.037-04:002011-08-28T05:37:58.037-04:00Molly Ren - It's a Resurs 500 unmanned Russian...Molly Ren - It's a Resurs 500 unmanned Russian space capsule. I chose it because it sort of abstractly reminded me of a phase of the moon.<br /><br />...I try to keep it to photos that I actually took myself, and sometimes that leads me to weird choices.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-1689684654291186962011-08-28T03:44:10.313-04:002011-08-28T03:44:10.313-04:00Okay, I am apologizing in advance for my very off-...Okay, I am apologizing in advance for my very off-topic comment:<br /><br />What IS that picture of? It looks like an artistic anglerfish!MollyRenhttp://molly-ren.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-8827754481629683932011-08-28T02:57:55.995-04:002011-08-28T02:57:55.995-04:00Oh, sometimes "It was just a phase" is s...Oh, sometimes "It was just a phase" is sort of code for "I have no fucking clue why I was like than and I'm certainly not now can we please drop it, it's pretty embarrassing"<br /><br />Because I AM embarrassed that I was a number of things that I am not now.teazombiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04238204447709781800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-49123150963349214892011-08-28T01:27:13.065-04:002011-08-28T01:27:13.065-04:00I'm absolutely with you on this, and said so a...I'm absolutely with you on this, and <a href="http://www.labcoatlingerie.com/2011/06/10/transplant/" rel="nofollow">said so</a> a while back: "[M]aybe it’s not about being 'right.' Maybe it’s [just] about describing the place where I am now ..."Fizzhttp://www.labcoatlingerie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-8127008338973362112011-08-27T21:16:58.056-04:002011-08-27T21:16:58.056-04:00It's possibly also worth mentioning that peopl...It's possibly also worth mentioning that people outgrow (or don't outgrow) certain phases at different rates, and it can be really hard to neutrally acknowledge a previous interest in something (like Goth culture, or collecting stamps, or whatever) without coming across as patronizing. I don't feel particular disassociation from previous phases, even if I'm no longer strictly interested in them, and I definitely find that difficult to communicate because of the automatic assumption that "outgrowing" a phase implies: that a new lack of interest arises from a new maturity, rather than fresh interests, or whatever other reasons.<br /><br />Hope you stay safe in the storm! It's starting in New York already.S_Morlowenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-79694064584699805352011-08-27T20:46:18.274-04:002011-08-27T20:46:18.274-04:00Yes, yes, a thousand times yes to all of this.
Th...Yes, yes, a thousand times yes to all of this.<br /><br />The worst is when people pigeonhole you to a "phase" or whatnot that they still identify with, and treat you as some sort of leper, or even traitor, since you no longer have the same thing in common. People refuse to believe you've moved on, and try to drag you back, because for some reason they NEED YOU THERE. And that's usually just your friends. <br /><br />I hate dealing with my family. I'm on the cusp of 30 and I don't think my family knows that I've had a life for the last 15 years.Jay R.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-44049382865024246142011-08-27T20:30:13.668-04:002011-08-27T20:30:13.668-04:00First thing I thought of when I saw this "I w...First thing I thought of when I saw this "I wonder how many of those I've been through?" Currently limited to "observant Jew" and "anime fan"; I'd like to think I was never the obnoxious kind of atheist.<br /><br />Second thing: if we're talking about sexuality phases, one of the weirdest things I notice when I'm browsing my porn stash (it's mostly from gelbooru) is that apparently I used to have a lactation fetish. For about a week, if the single clump of pictures says anything.BlackHumorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00071672687796403744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-55694970520485782422011-08-27T20:15:36.885-04:002011-08-27T20:15:36.885-04:00Emma - It was okay, actually--I was taking out spe...Emma - It was okay, actually--I was taking out specific parts for scientific research, not processing them for food.<br /><br />Unfortunately, I developed an allergy to shellfish, and that pretty much put an end to that.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-20814629270778649242011-08-27T19:04:46.763-04:002011-08-27T19:04:46.763-04:00I totally agree! I think a lot of phases I've ...I totally agree! I think a lot of phases I've had were me finding something I liked, deciding it was THE BEST, and then slowly realizing it didn't have to be the end all be all. For example, at one point I wanted to be a farmer (and worked on a farm), and now I just like gardening. It's not that I've lost interest in growing tomatoes, it's just that I've calmed down and incorporated them as an ongoing smaller part of my life.<br /><br />Also, Crab Processor doesn't sound like a very fun job.Emmanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-3328399806572213842011-08-27T18:46:10.051-04:002011-08-27T18:46:10.051-04:00Wow, I think I know why I identify with so much of...Wow, I think I know why I identify with so much of what you have to say. I'm a kinky, animal rights supporting, anime liking, somewhat observant Jewish woman who goes through a LOT of phases.<br /><br />I wonder who I'll be in five or ten years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-82152724652161341712011-08-27T18:42:19.468-04:002011-08-27T18:42:19.468-04:00resumes...yes, mine is bizarre as well, although n...resumes...yes, mine is bizarre as well, although not quite as well rounded as yours....and yes, I tailor it and wait for the day the perfect job is created for which my life has been the absolute prerequisite, thus making me the only person hireable, for exquisite sums of money and prestige. I will be ready, dammit! <br /><br />I don't know why so many employers see it as a downside that they have an interesting, well-rounded, Renaissance type person with varied expertises, and a knack for doing ANYthing. That sounds like a plus to me....but then I is one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com