tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post7054521371844542799..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: Misperception.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-29013890063308540732013-04-08T01:18:17.082-04:002013-04-08T01:18:17.082-04:00I'm kinky but still a virgin myself, and as a ...I'm kinky but still a virgin myself, and as a feminist I wonder if it's partly because in the conventional media model of vanilla sex, the woman IS at least slightly submissive. So because kink has to be the opposite of vanilla, the woman has to be the dominant one because it's the opposite of the role she (supposedly) normally plays.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-4448684554152829032009-11-28T15:39:35.002-05:002009-11-28T15:39:35.002-05:00My experience has been that people assume all kink...My experience has been that people assume all kinky women are submissive, actually. It's getting really frustrating. <br /><br />I've been hunting on Craigslist for a new sub lately and all these guys' ads have headlines like "Looking to explore your kinkiest fantasy!" or "Are you into BDSM?" ...and it's always, ALWAYS a dominant guy. BE SPECIFIC GODDAMMIT. Not every woman is looking for a master.<br /><br />I agree that most people view female subs as tragic and male subs as funny, and that totally sucks. But as a dominant woman I feel as though my sexual orientation (I do feel like this is just as much an "orientation" as being gay or straight) doesn't officially exist! I think society in general believes that dominant women are simply acting out men's fantasies in order to please them, and this is absolutely not true. Like you, Holly, I wanted to do certain things with boys way before I knew any of them would like it.<br /><br />And for the record, if anyone's going to wear a shiny black corset and miniskirt, it's my partner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-38893397858662840082009-08-26T12:51:13.606-04:002009-08-26T12:51:13.606-04:00Heh, oops, that came out wrong.
I don't, gene...Heh, oops, that came out wrong.<br /><br />I don't, generally, tend to hit <b>anyone</b>. (Sparring partners are an exception, of course.) What I meant was, even when women are explicitly asking to be hit, I have a hard time with it. And, actually, that does carry over to sparring. A number of female sparring partners have commented on the degree to which I pull my punches with them vs: the guys.<br /><br />So, to clarify, I <b>never</b> hit women who aren't (explicitly, verbally) asking for it. (Please, no jokes about "she was askin' for it".) And even when I'm in a space with a partner who wants to be hit, I have a difficult time of it, due to my cultural conditioning.perlhaqrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920117742664645165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-20644845071501738002009-08-25T23:02:30.400-04:002009-08-25T23:02:30.400-04:00Perlhaqr - Um... then who do you hit?Perlhaqr - Um... then who do you hit?Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-76114231352918589522009-08-25T22:56:42.232-04:002009-08-25T22:56:42.232-04:00I dunno. I'm into all that kinky shit, and I ...I dunno. I'm <b>into</b> all that kinky shit, and I have a hard time hitting women who are actively asking for it, simply because I've got all those hangups myself.perlhaqrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01920117742664645165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-6360949119597329342009-08-25T13:39:59.974-04:002009-08-25T13:39:59.974-04:00The costume deal is because the usual image of a &...The costume deal is because the usual image of a "dominatrix" is a woman who isn't actually into BDSM. Either she's a professional who makes a fortune whipping bankers in diapers, or she's just "trying something new" for kicks.<br />The costume is more important than the sex.Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824445546892392815noreply@blogger.com