tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post8712694164327076376..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: Teflon Vagina.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-3039058471076468232010-02-13T09:23:52.951-05:002010-02-13T09:23:52.951-05:00@Lucy Jane,
I hear you loud and clear. I am not a...@Lucy Jane,<br /><br />I hear you loud and clear. I am not a prostitute, but I am some what of a germaphobe. I DO NOT kiss on the first date, and maybe not even the second. I tell guys, I don't know where your tongue has been OR I know what you like to do with that tongue.<br /><br />Yeah, some people don't get it...STDs and other bacteria can be transmitted via the saliva in your mouth.<br /><br />I love sex, I like a good time but I am cautious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-30486076146439377162010-02-03T09:38:45.311-05:002010-02-03T09:38:45.311-05:00Lucy Jane,
1- the prostitutes say they're sav...Lucy Jane,<br /><br />1- the prostitutes say they're saving it for their boyfriends.<br /><br />2- If kissing without a latex barrier poses significant risk, it no kissing should be part of all safer sex, not just paid safer sex.<br /><br />3- Saliva-borne diseases are generally relatively mild as far as STDs go. Condoms really came into use for AIDS not mono.<br /><br />4- It's very hard for me to believe that one can engage in sex with a condom and no kissing and still not transmit any saliva; some of it is going to aerosolize if there's heavy breathing and nasal passages are much more vulnerable than the mouth.Mousie00noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-18068864683027180152010-02-03T01:44:19.903-05:002010-02-03T01:44:19.903-05:00This really ought to be required reading for every...This really ought to be required reading for every adolescent. Great job.Black Icehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05463313457370402499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-46590381143144903752010-02-02T12:09:48.127-05:002010-02-02T12:09:48.127-05:00...actually, I believe that lots of prostitutes re......actually, I believe that lots of prostitutes refuse to kiss customers because you can't really use a latex barrier for a kiss and exchanging fluids can be risky. Not because they're "saving something to be special."Lucy Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01275041822746216316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-50808709532785417522010-02-02T09:26:42.294-05:002010-02-02T09:26:42.294-05:00Kaija said "And some wingnut will always poin...Kaija said "And some wingnut will always point out "but you could get pregnant or get an STD or get AIDS from having sex with the wrong person so it IS potentially damaging"...but you could also get that from your first/only/monogamous partner too."<br /><br />We wingnuts of course would also say that the wrong monogamous partner was also potentially damaging.<br /><br />I'm not the best wingnut to discuss this issue because if I wrote my own scriptures I would not include chastity. However, one guess for psychological impact is that the exclusivity itself is the thing; if you call all your friends darling then it's not special when you call your spouse darling; if you sleep with all your friends then it's not special when you sleep with your spouse. Lots of prostitutes refuse to kiss customers for that reason, they're saving something to be special.Mousie00noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-87418765552539890962010-02-02T08:19:29.895-05:002010-02-02T08:19:29.895-05:00I have had a positive HPV result just after colleg...I have had a positive HPV result just after college, which my ob-gyn said could have come from my first partner or my latest since it's mostly aymptomatic. I've since cleared the virus and have not had any problems with it since. Since a majority of people who are sexually active are exposed to it, I didn't freak out. I have always been "safe" and like Holly, I know that sex isn't risk-free, but I think the upside far outweighs the potential downside. <br /><br />I do agree that the psychological "taint" is used as a scare tactic and weapon by the anti-sex/abstinence crowd to a ridiculous level. I don't think that approach stops anyone but I bet it really can do some damage to someone who has internalized that message that "you will be punished!".Kaijanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-10770992581697082512010-02-01T23:24:34.820-05:002010-02-01T23:24:34.820-05:00Anonymous - No, I've never had an STD. But I ...Anonymous - No, I've never had an STD. But I do know that I'm taking that risk, and I accept it. Safer sex isn't 100% effective but it reduces the risk to an acceptable level. Sex has the capacity to be negative, but it has such a massive and wonderful capacity to be positive, that I'm not backing out just because there are risks.<br /><br />Plus, I'm talking more about the psychological "taint" of having sex with the "wrong" person than of physical risks. Very nice people sometimes have germs, so holding out for The One won't really buy you much if The One has the herp.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-16420577789429241382010-02-01T23:19:05.211-05:002010-02-01T23:19:05.211-05:00holly and kaija, i'm curious if either of you ...holly and kaija, i'm curious if either of you have ever had an STD. i used to think pretty similarly to you, but after being diagnosed with genital herpes (after using condoms every.single.time -- safer sex seems like a stupid and bitter joke to me now), i DO think that sex has the capacity to be tainting and damaging. permanently. <br /><br />it just seems like it's easy, empty, bullshit words to say when you don't actually have to deal with the negative, forever parts of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-61353128539666852902010-02-01T16:34:13.559-05:002010-02-01T16:34:13.559-05:00Excellent points. Of course the whole "damag...Excellent points. Of course the whole "damaging yourself" by having sex with the wrong person is usually only applied to women...b/c our purity is so essential to our worth BS.<br /><br />And some wingnut will always point out "but you could get pregnant or get an STD or get AIDS from having sex with the wrong person so it IS potentially damaging"...but you could also get that from your first/only/monogamous partner too. And you could get hit by a bus if you leave your house...or slip in the shower and die IN your house. Life is a serious of calculated risks and a little common sense goes a long way. Your common sense in this post should be taken to heart!Kaijanoreply@blogger.com