tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post1758136664045247059..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: Girly girl.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-61965649203704784012010-08-12T16:59:01.406-04:002010-08-12T16:59:01.406-04:00I'm with jfpbookworm and Dw3t-Hthr! As the wi...I'm with jfpbookworm and Dw3t-Hthr! As the wise person once said, "Getting older is inevitable, but growing up is optional." I think the very best part of being an adult is being completely free and able to careen back and forth between sensible/responsible/serious/professional adult and silly/easily-amused/ridiculous kid...and knowing the time and place for most spots on that continuum (I write this lounging on an oversized beanbag "couch" with my laptop and a popsicle, with Boomerang on the TV and my bf playing Pokemon on his handheld video game thingy next to me).<br /><br />Part of me will always like to get up late on Sat a.m. and eat Chocolate Frosted Sugar Bombs, run through the grass pretending I'm a horse, and take corners on my (pedal) bike at full speed through my neighborhood. :)<br /><br />But then I also like being able to give an authorative presentation on my research and have people at work be just a little afraid of me (in the good way that means they won't leave messes in my area or ask me to make coffee). I also like sidewalk/hallway chicken with known asshats in my building (they always step aside).<br /><br />Of course some cognitive dissonance can occur when people from my adult/professional life occasionally catch a glimpse of silly me doing my silly things with my silly friends on my own time. :)Kaijanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-52396872616863672252010-08-12T14:00:54.811-04:002010-08-12T14:00:54.811-04:00Dw3t-Hthr - I'm beginning to suspect as much.
...Dw3t-Hthr - I'm beginning to suspect as much.<br /><br />Jfpbookworm - That's one of my favorite xkcd's ever.<br /><br />Jack - Okay, ew.<br /><br />And I'm really not a little (for one thing, I can't do the voice thing and would be slightly horrified if I could), I'm just a dizzy goofball adult. Respect my right to self-identify, dammit!<br /><br />...Also I'd like to self-identify as a dinosaur. RAWR.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-25514709161073064242010-08-12T09:58:34.135-04:002010-08-12T09:58:34.135-04:00I want to take off your Depends and suck on your c...<i>I want to take off your Depends and suck on your catheter, there there.</i><br /><br />Wow, you enjoyed it that much the last time, huh? :)<br /><br /><i>Sometimes. As I said, this is really only when I'm in my happy bubbly headspace, not all the time. I do in fact have fairly good access to the section of my head that pays bills on time and behaves appropriately at work and speaks directly and assertively--</i><br /><br />You know, that sounds like most of the littles I know -- they're competent and assertive in their daily lives. I don't know any littles, actually, who are in their 'head space' all the time (I suspect they'd have trouble functioning in society if they were like that 24/7). Maybe you're a 'Later Little' -- more like an 8-10-year-old (less thumb-sucking and footie pajamas, more sense of wonder, etc.).<br /><br />Either way, though, I have some candy for you -- you'll find that my catheter is just FILLED with it. :)Jacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-54273249532045238302010-08-12T08:00:31.788-04:002010-08-12T08:00:31.788-04:00This recent comic also comes to mind.
http://www.s...This recent comic also comes to mind.<br />http://www.smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=1965lxrnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-212160703375409322010-08-12T01:22:44.928-04:002010-08-12T01:22:44.928-04:00What Dw3t-Hthr said.
And, of course, when I get t...What Dw3t-Hthr said.<br /><br />And, of course, when I get too insecure about that, I just bop on over to <a href="http://xkcd.com/150/" rel="nofollow">xkcd</a>.jfpbookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09845037337646489772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-52081610380611802382010-08-12T01:18:22.979-04:002010-08-12T01:18:22.979-04:00Infantalizing oneself, even subtly, is no way to g...<i>Infantalizing oneself, even subtly, is no way to gain power and respect in society.</i><br /><br />I suppose you might be right about "respect in society", but the way to real power is to be who you are. If who you are is girly or childish, then <i>be that,</i> proudly. Trying to be something else is like cutting off your own legs.<br /><br />Or, as C.S. Lewis put it, "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-53581734028843760212010-08-12T00:51:14.375-04:002010-08-12T00:51:14.375-04:00I'll tell you a secret:
The actual trick to b...I'll tell you a secret:<br /><br />The actual trick to being an adult is accepting the sneaking suspicious realisation that <i>everyone else is faking it too</i>.Dw3t-Hthrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11584245136407694660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-78044314853509323432010-08-12T00:06:44.840-04:002010-08-12T00:06:44.840-04:00I was a gross old person by the time I was six.I was a gross old person by the time I was six.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-92210996299662594842010-08-11T22:12:39.146-04:002010-08-11T22:12:39.146-04:00I do both ways - when I think of myself, I'll ...I do both ways - when I think of myself, I'll describe myself as "Girl" in my mind. When I'm alone that's how I see myself still. <br /><br />But to others I try to present as "Woman." More adult & professional.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-60928166981729473012010-08-11T21:35:28.233-04:002010-08-11T21:35:28.233-04:00Jack - Hey -- as one of those gross older people, ...Jack - <i>Hey -- as one of those gross older people, I resent that remark.</i><br />I believe the expression is "I resemble that remark." :p<br /><br />No, no, that was a second joke, you're a sexy old person, I want to take off your Depends and suck on your catheter, there there.<br /><br /><i>Hmm. You sure you're not some kind of little?</i><br />AM NOT. AM GROWNED-UP! ...am just very small silly growned-up.<br /><br />Sometimes. As I said, this is really only when I'm in my happy bubbly headspace, not all the time. I do in fact have fairly good access to the section of my head that pays bills on time and behaves appropriately at work and speaks directly and assertively--I just don't think that's the <i>fun</i> section.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-89605597787072763692010-08-11T21:23:20.560-04:002010-08-11T21:23:20.560-04:00(That's a joke; of course people can be sexy a...<i>(That's a joke; of course people can be sexy at any age, at least to other gross old people.)</i><br /><br />Hey -- as one of those gross older people, I resent that remark.<br /><br />But that's okay -- you'll get old faster than you think, and then oh ho ho, will my mouldering corpse have a good laugh at your expense.<br /><br /><i>I'm also still a little shy and inexperienced in BDSM</i><br /><br />Bwahahahahha -- yeah, Hatchet Girl, wail on.<br /><br /><i>...So I appreciate partners who will take a slightly mentor-ish role and let me be a little bit of a kid in comparison. ...I also have a tendency to be just goofy in bed and love the kind of play where I'm laughing my ass off almost as much the kind where I'm screaming in pain.<br /><br />I do wonder if I'll ever become a woman. I have a feeling I won't. I can see myself in about twenty years, possibly living in a grown-up house with a grown-up job, and still referring to them in exactly those terms. Is it a submissive thing, or is just a Holly thing? Potato potahto, but I think it's a Holly thing. A certain sense of silliness and wonder is just a part of me, and neither biological age nor sexuality changes anything about that.... But I don't think women are girls. I just think Holly is. </i><br /><br />Hmm. You <i>sure</i> you're not some kind of little?Jacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-85945876329454055722010-08-11T21:09:21.402-04:002010-08-11T21:09:21.402-04:00I found that I did not feel like a grownup at all ...I found that I did not feel like a grownup at all until I had children. I think it has to do with the traditional phases of womanhood: maiden, mother, crone. You are still firmly in the maiden category and I suspect that's why you don't feel like a grownup. Interestingly, the point at which I began to view myself as a grownup woman is also the point when I began to appreciate vanilla sex. Don't get me wrong, I still prefer being submissive and my fantasies center around BDSM scenarios, but I also am thankful for every bit of tenderness (and that is what I could not do without). At 20 I wanted 80% rough and 20% tender, and a decade later it's probably the reverse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-24328060292679987732010-08-11T20:44:55.936-04:002010-08-11T20:44:55.936-04:00I'm just as silly as I was at half my current ...I'm just as silly as I was at half my current age, but much more deliberate. When hanging out with current college students I get exhausted by their energy and wish they could sit still and shut up.<br /><br />But recently I went swimming at a lake, which was predictably dominated by kids. One boy yelled at another for "bothering the grownups," and there was some cognitive dissonance in realizing he was including me in that group.Brunonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-50283773336999852612010-08-11T19:48:52.432-04:002010-08-11T19:48:52.432-04:00I have a widely renowned inability to predict what...I have a widely renowned inability to predict what I'll be doing <i>next week</i>, so I believe that.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-43348569694381658112010-08-11T19:47:21.256-04:002010-08-11T19:47:21.256-04:00I can see myself in about twenty years, possibly l...<i>I can see myself in about twenty years, possibly living in a grown-up house with a grown-up job, and still referring to them in exactly those terms.<br /></i><br />As a gross old person, I can assure you that how you are able now to see yourself in twenty years has fuck-all to do with how you will actually be in twenty years. Twenty years from now, I expect you to find me to tell me I was right.Comrade PhysioProfhttp://physioprof.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com