tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post7358634210310555568..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: Cosmocking: September '13!Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-14731679338093293512014-07-02T22:30:10.429-04:002014-07-02T22:30:10.429-04:00...First off, you know people can negotiate ahead ......First off, you know people can negotiate ahead of time, right? "Hey, is it okay if I surprise you by tying your arms sometimes?" is legit. I don't like the idea that all surprise is bad. (Also, lots of folks have rape fantasies that can be somewhat acted out by determining what is/isn't okay, safewords, etc ahead of time, not right before/during the actual sexual situation. It's a trust thing, too.) If I had to negotiate every time I had sex with my boyfriend, we'd be bored to tears.<br /><br />Also, complicated ties take forever. My boyfriend finds them boring. So yes, slipknot with a silk scarf can be legit if you're looking for a certain sexy look and you don't want to take 20 minutes to set up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-58744207000307486102013-12-22T09:34:29.538-05:002013-12-22T09:34:29.538-05:00omg I LOVE your posts. Awesome blog :) omg I LOVE your posts. Awesome blog :) Manonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-1194655516873691562013-10-22T17:44:08.130-04:002013-10-22T17:44:08.130-04:00oh oh oh! second time I've gotten to link to t...oh oh oh! second time I've gotten to link to this in one month!<br />http://youtu.be/j0j0Bjy6hFcJulezymehttp://dynamicita.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-88451927513100787652013-10-13T21:52:02.751-04:002013-10-13T21:52:02.751-04:00The Anna Breslaw article is not entertaining; it&#...The Anna Breslaw article is not entertaining; it's depressing. She tells us, "It always surprises me how many people consider getting a cumshot to the face anti-feminist because it signifies degradation. Those people aren’t feminists, they’re just judgmental." Um, what? <br /><br />I get it that she's saying, "hey, if you're ok with this -- if you've negotiated it and you're comfortable -- go ahead and do it. And don't do it if you're not." ...but dragging judgey feminism into this after admitting "facials" are porn-inspired -- REALLY? Pervygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832534164039059476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-57965900456431112592013-10-13T21:38:30.746-04:002013-10-13T21:38:30.746-04:00I like the idea that this intern reads Cliff's...I like the idea that this intern reads Cliff's Cosmocking!Pervygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832534164039059476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-75213860324908886902013-10-13T21:30:31.675-04:002013-10-13T21:30:31.675-04:00I see the point in the mainstream media context, b...I see the point in the mainstream media context, but it's useful to be able to talk about "light bondage" in a kink-fluent environment... it's a reasonable way to communicate we're not talking about 45 minutes of intricate ropework when discussing a scene. Obviously there's further variation to negotiate, but still useful.Pervygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832534164039059476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-71623178251710802432013-10-13T21:19:54.023-04:002013-10-13T21:19:54.023-04:00Having known/played with a guy who masturbated wit...Having known/played with a guy who masturbated with household objects in his urethra (handle of a spoon, pen, etc), I'm not surprised by the link... not even surprised by possibly dangerous pokey things (garden wire) being used... but I'm utterly baffled by how stupid -- like Darwin-awards stupid -- someone could be to stick something so difficult to retrieve up there, such as a marble. Or a battery. That *corrodes* -- oh man. Pervygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832534164039059476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-90764349946689561442013-10-09T18:04:26.445-04:002013-10-09T18:04:26.445-04:00I don't remember which post I originally comme...I don't remember which post I originally commented on, but the new Cosmo website has actually been really entertaining? Particularly this writer, Anna Breslaw.<br />http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/he-wants-to-come-on-you<br /><br />Awesome advice, here, and funny!freddy-mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17009490858576941446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-54312709236768626792013-10-09T17:49:21.989-04:002013-10-09T17:49:21.989-04:00Have you seen the new cosmopolitan.com? I'm a...Have you seen the new cosmopolitan.com? I'm actually... enJOYING THE ARTICLES?!!?!!! Most of them are pretty funny.freddy-mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17009490858576941446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-57903149489863542912013-10-08T19:57:19.836-04:002013-10-08T19:57:19.836-04:00A friend of mine sent me a year's subscription...A friend of mine sent me a year's subscription as a joke Christmas present, so I've seen this issue. It really irritated me that they shortchanged Rebel Wilson too. <br />Having gotten the past year's issues, I noticed that this is the only time this year they've had two profile-style interviews - they sort of shoehorned Nina Dobrev's in with a fashion spread - and I can't think why the most formulaic magazine in the world would change it up if not to avoid putting a fat woman on the cover. They also had exactly one picture with the Rebel Wilson interview where they ordinarily would do a whole shoot.<br />Because no one wants to look at fatties, amirite? And no one will notice if we use an awkward method of getting a skinny woman on the cover if she's showing enough cleavage. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-68331544280451536672013-10-07T17:03:14.641-04:002013-10-07T17:03:14.641-04:00I hate those rags. Thanks for your hilarious ridi...I hate those rags. Thanks for your hilarious ridicule of them.Orochihttp://sexykeywords.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-55514045463103427772013-09-26T16:53:38.613-04:002013-09-26T16:53:38.613-04:00the problem with this is that in cosmo world you a...the problem with this is that in cosmo world you are supposed to use things like scarves and ties, which can easily be tied in a way that cuts off circulation and can cause severe damage. brigethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03401136571914563283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-85262402864577580342013-09-25T05:00:24.179-04:002013-09-25T05:00:24.179-04:00I know talking about the photoshop disaster that i...I know talking about the photoshop disaster that is every Cosmo cover is getting utterly overdone, but... never mind her spine, what is with that freakishly elongated arm?!<br /><br />And utter sadface about them snubbing Rebel Wilson. I love her so much. I am a bit thrilled at the linked covers on the other magazines (the Glamour one is especially gorgeous), but only a bit thrilled, because they still felt the need to crop most of her body out. Because heaven knows we can't show an unskinny body on a magazine cover! What do you mean, some people would find it hotter than the skinny people usually featured? Pishposh!<br /><br />(Not trying to imply that the existence of fat bodies is only justified if someone finds them hot. But the fact that fat bodies <i>can</i> be attractive, and <i>are</i> attractive, to many people, is so utterly ignored out of existence that I feel it bears mentioning.)Neuritenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-19544604387255286152013-09-24T05:36:40.919-04:002013-09-24T05:36:40.919-04:00I've conditioned hemp rope myself. Among other...I've conditioned hemp rope myself. Among other things, I burned the prickliest bits off and worked oil/grease into it. It still smells a bit barnyardy (not unusual for relatively raw hemp or linen) but it feels very nice. <br /><br />Also, yeah, ick to "statutory grape". goldenorbrokenorlostnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-91001058504843331962013-09-24T05:29:37.813-04:002013-09-24T05:29:37.813-04:00You could probably use pearls for a very expensive...You could probably use pearls for a very expensive antacid!goldenorbrokenorlostnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-78967293380074517712013-09-23T15:43:14.126-04:002013-09-23T15:43:14.126-04:00I definitely assumed initially that it was a comme...I definitely assumed initially that it was a comment you'd added. It does sound oddly snarky for the magazine, presenting it as self-evident and obvious when they've also got content instructing you not to communicate verbally with your partner. Weird. I like ruolbu's intern theory.minuteyenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-81463008530772547602013-09-23T15:12:30.503-04:002013-09-23T15:12:30.503-04:00This is narcissistic and a bit of a stretch, so I ...This is narcissistic and a bit of a stretch, so I didn't put this theory up top, but... sounds like <i>me</i>. The condescending "you know" is a verbal tic I've used a million times on this blog. I certainly have no exclusive claim on that very common phrase, I just, you know, like to entertain the fantasy that I made a difference.Cliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-39684097782585354692013-09-23T15:06:30.364-04:002013-09-23T15:06:30.364-04:00That phrase struck me strangely also. The most pop...That phrase struck me strangely also. The most popular sex trend in the world right now? Really? In Chile and Siberia and Ghana and Indonesia and everywhere? They've asked everyone?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-85992709338059096652013-09-23T03:19:31.917-04:002013-09-23T03:19:31.917-04:00Or sometimes you can get there, but you gotta do i...Or sometimes you can get there, but you gotta do it on your own/with the help of a toy. My current main squeeze is very cool with that, but the one before him, oy. He used to brood over the fact that I didn't come from penetration alone, and if it happened to be a difficult night for me to get off from oral, he'd sulk. If I suggested playing with my vibrator, even if he was the one wielding it...well, that wasn't received well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-52757680670585788352013-09-22T21:45:16.858-04:002013-09-22T21:45:16.858-04:00"You can also, you know, tell him what you wa..."You can also, you know, tell him what you want."<br /><br />Sounds like an intern that is forced to always go with the "It's the cosmo-way"-kind-of-advice and sneaks in this one frustrated personal opinion. At least, that is my head canon.<br />In any way, that single line made me wonder for a second if the cursive print is actually your part and I've just been getting it wrong. It just comes off as very cynical.ruolbuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02223115893001961419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-80781515471800888642013-09-22T14:39:53.048-04:002013-09-22T14:39:53.048-04:00I'm surprised you didn't talk about the po...I'm surprised you didn't talk about the pose they have Nina D. in. Like, holy crap where did her spine go?! It makes me think of http://eschergirls.tumblr.com/ they look at comic book poses for women and how often these poses are physically impossible if you have a normal skeletal system.<br /><br />Still, it makes me sad that they skipped Rebel, seems fishy or rather fat-phobic.Esistenzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08407572395063504307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-54766851207119665042013-09-22T12:41:12.802-04:002013-09-22T12:41:12.802-04:00Even if I thought I could put a condom on correctl...Even if I thought I could put a condom on correctly with my feet, I don't really want to put anything inside of me that my feet have been all over. I know where those things have been.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09484225307026346601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-652146491467889852013-09-22T12:37:49.000-04:002013-09-22T12:37:49.000-04:00To me "light bdsm" always reads as begin...To me "light bdsm" always reads as beginner-level - the kind of stuff you'd be doing to introduce a newbie. You know, starting off with blindfolds and tied wrists instead of jumping straight to suspension or a total power exchange. The bunny slopes of kink, if you will.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09484225307026346601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-76088944419185920822013-09-22T12:21:00.917-04:002013-09-22T12:21:00.917-04:00"Q: Sex with my boyfriend has become meh. How..."Q: Sex with my boyfriend has become meh. How can I talk to him about improving it <br />A: Having a serious conversation can be overkill. Take action instead."<br /><br />There are so many things troubling about this. For a start: Ever heard of consent? Nope. Rape culture strikes again.rabaukinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-86728336764316758052013-09-22T00:51:56.031-04:002013-09-22T00:51:56.031-04:00Anon on 9/21, 10:50AM: Sure, simply saying to att...Anon on 9/21, 10:50AM: Sure, simply saying to attack may not be enough. Not disputing that her partner may need other things to work through fears, inhibitions, reservations, etc. he may have. (And maybe he's just not into it! Though the fact that he went there once may be encouraging.)<br /><br />But saying to attack is a <i>necessary first step</i>. Otherwise, the advice becomes "get him to act aggressively and selfishly <i>without knowing that you're into that and want it</i>. Get him to <i>disregard your well-being and consent</i>". The assumption that this is behavior you would want your partner to be capable of/engage in is terrifying. The assumption that all men will act that way if you just get them drunk and put a sexily dressed woman in front of them is both rape-apologist BS and insulting to men.Neuritenoreply@blogger.com