tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post7746205498834756807..comments2024-03-22T05:55:48.117-04:00Comments on The Pervocracy: Why women have sex.Cliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-59937267179099542142011-09-18T07:50:56.127-04:002011-09-18T07:50:56.127-04:00"By "the same way," does she mean &..."By "the same way," does she mean "the corresponding way," that he in turn values her pleasure more, or literally the same way, that they're both just doing it to get him off? Because the one doesn't fit the "women are so cooooomplicated" paradigm, and the other is a serious problem and shouldn't be looked at as the normal way of the world."<br /><br />Oh hey look, the former totally explains my personal sex philosophy: I'm here to make sure both partners have a great time, and I can best do that if I spend most of my effort and energy making the experience as wonderful for my partner as I can.<br /><br />The latter totally explains the sex philosophies of all those guys who scared me that getting a woman to orgasm was neigh impossible and that they were this complicated beast! Actually what's funny is that I've had a lot of "feminist" and so-called "sex positive" (actually a better description would be "fem-supremacists" and 'female-sex-positive") repeat the same tired crap to me. Somehow I don't know how to please a woman because I'm a *man* and I probably think it's all about shoving things inside other things.<br /><br />When I got to throw out the NEWS FLASH: SOMETIMES IT IS, SOMETIMES IT ISN'T, YOUR MILEAGE MAY VARRY they accused me of not knowing what the fuck I'm talking about... as I comment on the blog of a woman who's admitted to not enjoying clitoral stimulation.<br /><br />Smug, smart, superior... these are things I feel now. Dear women of that particular forum: it turns out I *do* know more about feminism and females than you do despite what your little links tried to prove otherwise. What's weird is I don't actually know all that much about females (I mean I'm decent on anatomy)... but I managed it by not assuming (as you do) that "females" are this homogenous group which have weird universal truths like "all girls prefer reverse cowgirl" or "all girls are sub."superglucosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18398359404946835540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-15554561293691077482011-09-18T07:50:49.190-04:002011-09-18T07:50:49.190-04:00". I like men who are intelligent, respectful...". I like men who are intelligent, respectful, physically strong, have high sex drives, and share my geeky/kinky subculture--is there any mystery there?"<br /><br />The only mystery is what happens if I only fit 4 of the 5 categories? Do I get a B (as in "get to B with you" bwahahahaha c wut i did thar?) or a B- (as in "I get to B with you, but only as friends" bwahahaha cuz friends suck yo, and you're only "just" friends when you could be SO MUCH MORE!)<br /><br />I notice "funny" isn't on the list. Can I substitute it for "physically strong"?<br /><br />"There are also some arbitrary ones, like my tendency to fall for blond guys or for Native American guys, "<br /><br />3/16th Cherokee baby! Qualifying for tribal scholarships! Dun look it though, which is what I'm sure you meant XD Also probably more than half native.superglucosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18398359404946835540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-84986461771773411252011-09-18T07:50:33.452-04:002011-09-18T07:50:33.452-04:00A study from Meston's lab showed a strong corr...A study from Meston's lab showed a strong correlation between how erect a man's penis is and how aroused he says he is. By contrast, the link is much weaker between a woman's physical arousal (as measured inside her vagina) and the arousal she says she feels, the researchers found. This is why drugs to treat erectile dysfunction such as Viagra don't work as well in women, the authors said.<br /><br /><br />Either they're saying that how erect a woman's penis is isn't as closely related to arousal as a man's (which would be interesting to study pre-op transwomen versus cismen, but somehow I doubt this is what they're going for, so BWUH?) or they're trying to say that a woman's erectile disfunction is more difficult to cure (Again: if we're talking transsexuals this might be interesting, but since we're not, what the ever loving mother of fuck?)superglucosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18398359404946835540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-55507993907605038292009-10-12T14:32:37.437-04:002009-10-12T14:32:37.437-04:00I'm wondering if a lot of the stereotypes abou...<i>I'm wondering if a lot of the stereotypes about men are things which are not inherent to men but to the assumed privileges of the patriarchy?</i><br />This. The fact is, men and women behave differently about sex. My suspicion is that it's not all social conditioning, because gay men and gay women also have different sex patterns, but while pondering their deep motivations may get silly, there must be a reason for the differences, right?Brunohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11545875839887483257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-61727337100430142002009-10-11T18:01:02.296-04:002009-10-11T18:01:02.296-04:00I'm wondering if a lot of the stereotypes abou...I'm wondering if a lot of the stereotypes about men are things which are not inherent to men but to the assumed privileges of the patriarchy? For example, if we had centuries or millennia of matriarchy instead, wouldn't we see a lot more women casually screwing whoever they found interesting and attractive and men being discouraged from doing the same?<br /><br />(And also, if the advanced societies had been matriarchies, I would expect that condoms and abortifacient drugs, which have existed in some form for centuries, would have become widespread and reliable long before modern times.)Not Menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-6098380932870815912009-10-11T05:08:06.801-04:002009-10-11T05:08:06.801-04:00I especially liked 'Drugs for male erectile dy...I especially liked 'Drugs for male erectile dysfunction don't work on women!'<br /><br />But you missed one of the really important reasons they didn't allow men into the study:<br />C. If they only have data for women, they can pretend that the range of data they have proves women have sex for complicated reasons, rather than proving that people have sex for complicated reasons.SlightlyMetaphysicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891271827553008521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-59553684893623781662009-10-11T00:10:32.691-04:002009-10-11T00:10:32.691-04:00i really wish you'd write, Why Women Have Lunc...i really wish you'd write, Why Women Have Lunch. i'm sure cosmo wouldnt get the joke and, hoping to lose weight, buy it by the dozen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com