tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.comments2024-02-23T03:38:53.049-05:00The PervocracyCliff Pervocracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comBlogger29517125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-72487730840984816842018-07-20T23:35:04.756-04:002018-07-20T23:35:04.756-04:00I can't believe you're back! I happened t...I can't believe you're back! I happened to click an old link from captain awkward, and the last thing I was expecting was a new post! Made my day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-1126929735056831392018-07-18T02:46:03.835-04:002018-07-18T02:46:03.835-04:00Heyo, your posts really helped me four years ago. ...Heyo, your posts really helped me four years ago. I was going through my own sketchy relationships, and your perspectives helped me to grow to respect myself. Through your blog I saw a person who tangibly made it ok for me to desire the things I desired when people around me were not understanding or accepting. <br /><br />Hell I'm pretty sure I became 10x more active in feminist circles because of you. <br /><br />I occasionally check here if you've updated. I don't know why I thought today was the day to check. <br /><br />I am so happy that you are here. That you were here for me when I needed it, and that you've been able to step back and be there for yourself. Know that you are appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-57278930824052273382018-07-17T04:54:59.103-04:002018-07-17T04:54:59.103-04:00I fucking love this post.
Like your first commen...I fucking love this post. <br /><br />Like your first commenter, I spent the first two decades or so of my life as the good obedient girl who didn't admit to liking sex or gosh anything at all like that. And when I started to explore later it was with a lot less verve and flair than you, Cliff. But having people out there diving headfirst into the wild world of perviness and sharing all the TMI and feelings and adventures was really, really important to shy, quiet me as I tried to figure this stuff out. It *was* emotionally validating! Gave me good and bad examples. Showed me that some of the things I needed in life could actually exist and that there were names for them.<br /><br />And there will never be too many blogs of people saying "Fuck yes, living your best sex and kink life is a good thing on its own merits." Especially from people who aren't straight cis men. One of the reasons that I'm the openly bisexual kinky poly domme and masochist I am today is all of the rest of you who've been out there slowly overwriting the messages of "Sex bad, woman pure and demure, physical pleasure sinful" with "Enjoying what your body can do and what turns you on in your mind is a GOOD THING--and here's how to avoid a few mistakes I made in the process." <br /><br />Thank you, Cliff. And I love the bandaid metaphor. <br />nenya_kanadkanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-64370129118083708582018-07-17T04:04:50.334-04:002018-07-17T04:04:50.334-04:00Fuck yes! I follow your Tumblr sporadically but wi...Fuck yes! I follow your Tumblr sporadically but with enthusiasm (you've always got something to say that makes me smile or think or both, even the shitposts), but I also missed this blog. :D Hurray! :Dnenya_kanadkanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-90827801812650290412018-07-15T20:20:05.043-04:002018-07-15T20:20:05.043-04:00glad to see you. i wonder sometimes how you are.glad to see you. i wonder sometimes how you are.flaskhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02926786246931651655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-85861395018339752632018-07-15T16:29:08.977-04:002018-07-15T16:29:08.977-04:00Man, had I been ABLE to have wild sex and blog abo...Man, had I been ABLE to have wild sex and blog about it, I would've been there! It sounds way better than what I got stuck actually doing. (Desperately trying to subdue my triggers enough to have ANY sexual activity AT ALL, having a shit-ton of toxic friends, and being treated like a total freak anyway.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-64078086553176752032018-07-15T16:20:26.263-04:002018-07-15T16:20:26.263-04:00Man, go figure you'd come back like a month or...Man, go figure you'd come back like a month or two after I stopped obsessively checking! *shakes fist*LBThttp://healthymultiplicity.com/loonybrainnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-59902088393072320652018-07-13T21:16:49.898-04:002018-07-13T21:16:49.898-04:00Cliff! Welcome back! I've been keeping up with...Cliff! Welcome back! I've been keeping up with your tumblr but I've been missing this blog - it's been a favorite for years and I still revisit some old posts occasionally.Miriellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12744579128860730658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-83171683159204398322018-07-12T21:15:04.719-04:002018-07-12T21:15:04.719-04:00I am SO HAPPY to see new posts here, and to read t...I am SO HAPPY to see new posts here, and to read that you're doing so well! I was just sharing your post "Sex anyway" with a friend after a conversation she and I had, and I was lamenting that you don't post anymore, and I didn't know what you were up to. But you're back! Hooray!Sam's Sisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06072667515263098671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-75679247965654203932018-07-12T16:43:13.513-04:002018-07-12T16:43:13.513-04:00I loved this blog. I really appreciate your perspe...I loved this blog. I really appreciate your perspective on relationships and sexuality, it helped shape a lot of ideas I have on how I myself want to live. So I'm glad to see an update! And I'm even happier to know you are ok and doing well. <br />I concur with the previous comment - I hope for more updates but you and your health always comes first. Take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-62982084238536534192018-07-11T19:38:34.843-04:002018-07-11T19:38:34.843-04:00I knew I missed this blog with a passion, but I ne...I knew I missed this blog with a passion, but I never knew just how much until I saw this post! Shivers! Tears!<br /><br />You do you Cliff, and you be healthy, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't hope that includes this blog.Clementine Dangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936232028058769077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-14466193296862520422018-07-10T21:12:46.768-04:002018-07-10T21:12:46.768-04:00Welcome back!
I found your blog back in 2012 and ...Welcome back! <br />I found your blog back in 2012 and it really resonated with me. Looking forward to hearing about your cute middle aged pervert life.Pennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-76022019986375559662018-07-09T13:53:49.999-04:002018-07-09T13:53:49.999-04:00Ohhhh shit I feel like a tool right now. So so sor...Ohhhh shit I feel like a tool right now. So so sorry! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-750799956647554242018-07-09T13:23:35.248-04:002018-07-09T13:23:35.248-04:00Yay, I'm glad you're back! When my favorit...Yay, I'm glad you're back! When my favorite bloggers go silent I worry about whether they're okay sometimes.epaisleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08277764494535466090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-75111714150898724732018-07-08T17:40:04.436-04:002018-07-08T17:40:04.436-04:00"It was a Band-Aid on the problem, which is a..."It was a Band-Aid on the problem, which is a great metaphor because Band-Aids make you feel better and help you heal."<br /><br />YES. I talked with my therapist for the first time this week about my (previous) self harm and (current) enjoyment of bdsm, and how I feel vaguely worried that I should feel more negatively about the fact that I used to cut myself. But she was just like: "It sounds like it helped you at the time, so in a way it was a positive experience, and it's okay to feel that." <br /><br />And ditto with bdsm. I think for a lot of people (including me), it can be a way of processing stuff and dealing with issues. But why would people say that like it's a bad thing??Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-17582131367839040702018-07-08T17:30:13.623-04:002018-07-08T17:30:13.623-04:00You are the CUTEST! And welcome back! Your blog po...You are the CUTEST! And welcome back! Your blog posts helped me so much in defining how I felt about feminism, bdsm, sex, etc. I've been following you on Tumblr, but it would be great to hear any more in-depth thoughts you have on...literally any topic really. This episode of Queer Eye, for one: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/07/06/queer-eye-skyler-transgender-season-2/Emilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-63532923386561318252018-07-08T16:15:39.299-04:002018-07-08T16:15:39.299-04:00Ha! Apart from the internet stuff, this is exactly...Ha! Apart from the internet stuff, this is exactly my life!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-61776779746485657562018-07-08T15:39:35.690-04:002018-07-08T15:39:35.690-04:00Welcome back - I am glad I have not removed this f...Welcome back - I am glad I have not removed this from my blogroll. <br /><br />Your missing stair article is still one of my most recommended links when I try to explain the concept to other people.<br /><br />Hope to read more from you again.Berndnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-41901187460624084012018-07-08T06:23:55.381-04:002018-07-08T06:23:55.381-04:00Yay, I'm so happy to see that you're posti...Yay, I'm so happy to see that you're posting here again! I've been following you on tumblr but it's just not the same. Mari-tätihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05931872234087975565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-1750391986176662242018-07-07T20:00:51.762-04:002018-07-07T20:00:51.762-04:00Wow I'm happy to see this! I found your blog a...Wow I'm happy to see this! I found your blog a few years back and read through the whole thing (it took me weeks!), then naturally became a regular on this page. It helped me so much through a weird time of self discovery. Anyway, I guess I'm just taking my chance to say thank you! Glad to read you again! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-80198653062717838542018-07-07T17:50:00.251-04:002018-07-07T17:50:00.251-04:00If I could go back and tell myself anything, it wo...If I could go back and tell myself anything, it would be to be a little wild (I mean, assuming we're talking to before 2006 or so, I had a colostomy from 2008 to 2016, which limits the amount of available wildness).<br /><br />Not that I can't be wild now, but I'm 15 years too late to be a wild 25-year-oldHershele Ostropolerhttp://essaressellwye.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-59660746376977068542018-07-07T16:58:51.323-04:002018-07-07T16:58:51.323-04:00I've followed your Tumblr all along, but I'...I've followed your Tumblr all along, but I've missed this one! Welcome back!Jeppssonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05016901164247140438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-10948326808672723182018-07-07T16:48:18.122-04:002018-07-07T16:48:18.122-04:00Sex is great. I wish I was a member of a group th...Sex is great. I wish I was a member of a group that openly espoused the belief, the value, that sex is a wonderful thing and should be encouraged and nurtured, rather than publicly condemned the way it is now. Then let the damned puritans try to claim superiority on the grounds that their belief is truer than ours! <br />Ian MacMillannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-86209380307584498132018-07-07T14:20:37.928-04:002018-07-07T14:20:37.928-04:00Haha, I'm not a woman anymore. :pHaha, I'm not a woman anymore. :pCliff Pervocracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080142422250604406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2770580070906411828.post-43937466088521111312018-07-07T14:03:46.489-04:002018-07-07T14:03:46.489-04:00I have been thinking about you a bunch lately!
So...I have been thinking about you a bunch lately!<br /><br />So good to read you, maybe the world would love more perspectives from cute been-there-done-that women?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com