The Pervocracy

Captain Awkward. Or Sue.  I might have gotten my notes switched. I had an amazing time in Chicago this weekend.   Everyone at the Unive...

First, some big news: I am going to be speaking at the University of Chicago Sex Week! More details available here , but the short versio...

Because Nothing is Scarier . I used to believe there was such a thing as The Worst Thing In The World.  It's a pretty nebulous thi...

There's a lot of articles out there about "red flags" to watch out for when you're dating someone.  My favorite is the d...

This week in Developmental Psychology class I presented a paper on dating violence in teenage relationships.  I'm not going to rehash...

There's a lot of talk out there about how to meet the person of your dreams. Or how to pick up someone to screw. Or a whole lot of thi...

I hate being "sexy." I'm bad at it--I don't have a "sexy" body, I'm awkward in "sexy" clothes, a...

I got an email the other day offering me "tribute" for my "time" as a dominatrix. A little annoyed and a little amused, ...

Sometimes I'm frustrated that I don't know exactly what I'm into. I have some general ideas on the physical stuff--biting yes p...

[This was the "too grouchy" post. Since people are talking about it anyway, what the hell. Just let me note that I don't thi...

I got a random message on OkCupid today, and checking it meant my status got reset to "Online Today," and that meant that I got cl...

The theme of the "Dating While Feminist" event is based on an interview Jacklyn Friedman gave on the subject of "Fucking Wh...

Sign a first date is mediocre: "So what do you do for a living? ...That's very interesting. What made you choose that career?...

For the longest time I agonized about how to say certain things. How do you ask a boy if he likes you? How do you ask for freaky things in...

Okay, sleep deprivation temporarily resolved, back to putting effort into this blog. Apologies for the less-effort, I know it's been sh...

OkCupid (I know, I know, but 98% of my social life is coordinated online, so it seems stupid to say "online dating is for losers!"...

I can't date now, I'm about to move across the country. I can't date now, I'm unemployed. I can't date now, I just start...

I just told a guy I didn't want to see him anymore. We'd only had three dates, but two of them were sleepovers and he was taking th...

Kinky does not mean slutty. Slutty does not mean easy. Slut does not mean whore. Slut does not mean bitch. And normal does not mean ...

The concept of "out of your league" in dating is one of those areas where my ideals sometimes get muddled up with my real-life exp...