Man, lately I just don't have time to be a slut.
I get off work at 6:00, but recently there's been at least an hour of overtime every day, so it's really 7:00 or 7:30. I'm not exactly in man-killer shape then; I'm hungry, tired, smelly, covered in sweat and infectious diseases, dressed like a mall cop, and 45 minutes from town. It'll likely be 9:00 before I'm presentable, and I need to get home by 12:30 to get a decent amount of sleep.
Three and a half hours is plenty of time to have sex. Leisurely, really. But when your task isn't "have sex" but "meet a man, determine if he passes your gut-check, determine if he likes you, seduce him, find a place to go with him, then have sex"--that's a tall order. Even assuming I can find any appealing and willing man, it's still a daunting energy investment to fuck a new person on a weeknight.
I think this is a lot of the reason I fuck Benny so much, even though I'm not all that fond of him--he's there. I can call him when I get off work and have a sure thing by the time I'm done showering. A night when I'll definitely fuck Benny can be worth more than a night where I'll maybe fuck someone better.
I've got to admit, this is a little bit of the appeal of relationships. Christ, that sounds boorish, I'm not saying that's a reason to date someone or it's all dating is. I'm a big fan of emotional connections and support that include but go way beyond sex. I'm just saying--promiscuity's not immoral and it's not unsatisfying, but fuck, it's difficult.
Why scrounge all over town for free milk when you could have a cow at home?
Summa: Wage labor drives you into convenient and potentially boring relationships!
ReplyDeleteClassless -
ReplyDelete1) I also want to be in a relationship, this is just one of the cruder reasons.
2) Wages or no, my job would still need doing. I drive an ambulance; I hope that even a classless society would not be an ambulance-less society.
Wow . . . I think that's the first time I've read about Benny, and I don't think it came out very well. Kinda read like I should feel sorry for Benny, actually.
ReplyDeleteBut then again, he's probably having a lot more sex than I am. Nah, let him deal with the problem of being some hot girl's personal quickie toy as best he can. No sympathy.
But EMT uniforms are hot! :D
ReplyDeleteI hope to be going on a ride-along soonish. I'm contemplating taking up the task myself. If nothing else, it's a good zombie apocalypse skill to have. :D
Don- Holly is reorganizing the tags and giving everybody pseudonyms. We've read extensively about Benny under another name. He's not overflowing with need for sympathy.
ReplyDeleteDon - As LabRat says, "Benny" is a new pseudonym for an old face. He had his chance with me and repeatedly and rather cruelly turned it down.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I don't think he's particularly unhappy in the current situation--he knows what he means to me and it's about the same as what I mean to him. I'm not exactly leaving him pining.
Why do I think that a sexual relationship between two people who don't particularly respect each other is likely to end badly?
ReplyDeleteDoing things is not the same as wage labor.
ReplyDeleteI hope Benny treats you as the convenient hole you are.
ReplyDeleteStay classy, Anonymous.
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