Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Quick note on prettiness.

The best thing about feeling pretty isn't the ability to get laid. (Although that's a close and rather important second.) The best thing is the ability to not get laid, and still feel okay about yourself. To turn someone down without feeling that maybe they were the best you can get, or to get turned down without feeling like it's a crushing mortal insult--those are the really nice benefits of feeling pretty.

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  1. Why would it be a crushing mortal insult?

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  2. Hole-y is a Butt SlutJune 10, 2010 at 5:20 PM

    Odd, for someone who is very far from pretty.

    BTW, this is Hole-y a few years down the line. She will call 911 and demand that the government provide her a husband. LOL!!

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  3. Hole-y is a Butt SlutJune 10, 2010 at 7:02 PM

    Also, this is me. I bet Hole-y wishes she could catch a man with such a rad tattoo.

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  4. ^ you're a poophead

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  5. It's (in my case anyway) not just about turning someone down without feeling they're the best you can get - it's about, when you *don't* turn someone down, being secure in the knowledge that you do so because they're who you want, rather than just who you can "get." *That's* the one that gets to me, because it has a tendency to creep in even in cases where it's obvious there's more to it than "no other options."

    Anon: it's less (again, in my case) about it being a crushing mortal insult, and more a tendency to take an individual rejection as representative. If I feel ugly, it feels like someone rejecting me is speaking for society as a whole, whereas if I'm feeling non-ugly (not necessarily "pretty" or "attractive," just not ugly) then I can take a rejection as just some individual's preference.

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