Is it just me, or does it seem like (with the exception of grocery and clothing stores) you see a lot more men than women alone in public? Seems like on the sidewalk, in restaurants, at movies, in parks women are usually with partners or groups, and more men go around by themselves.
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Vagina Mints! Probably not a good idea. Plus, even if it wasn't ridiculously unhealthy, the whole idea is missing the point. I like my snozzberries to taste like snozzberries, if you know what I'm saying.
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If there is one thing in life I will never understand, it's men online sending/displaying pictures of their penises to strangers and expecting a positive response. If I already like a guy, it can be a thrill to see his penis, but your generic disembodied penis really doesn't do much for me. It's only arousing if there's some sort of context. (Or if it's like whoa.)
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I think the idea of consent as The Big Important Concept in sex-positivity is helpful in nonsexual life too. There's a lot of situations where you find yourself "harmlessly" pressuring someone to do something they don't want to--even something innocuous like go out when they're tired or try a food they don't like--and it helps to step back and remember that "I don't want to" is all a competent adult needs to say. You can ask why, you can decide that you don't want to hang out with that person, you can suggest things, but you have no right to demand or pressure a friend into even the most innocent things.
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Add "witches" to "sci-fi fans" and "Ren Faire folk" on my list of people who always seem to be kinky and/or poly even though there's no obvious connection. Although really, I'm just describing the same twelve people over and over again.
(Have I delurked before? Thought about it many times. Hi!)
ReplyDeleteBut, yeah, what is WITH that penis thing? I absolutely do not get it. Maybe for a gay audience you get the combo of visual stimulation + into cock, but straight guys who are all: "Presenting! My penis!! TADA!"
Unless there's something there that appeals to the academic side of me ("wow, really big curve there"), it's usually feels like something between immature, ooky, or ridiculous, and I can't think of any time it's made a man more attractive to me. I am a huge fan of cock in action, but have a really hard time separating it from the whole man it belongs to. A picture of an entire naked man can be amazingly hot. I'm thinking of this one I saw of Yul Brynner standing up naked and looking like he'll come through the camera and ravage you.
I've had people "dickroll" me, as I've heard it called. It's never been a particularly attractive penis, so it's never gotten an "awesome" reaction.
ReplyDeleteFortunately, I manage to refrain from laughter.
CG - I'm not sure! But hi CG!
ReplyDeleteI watch video porn, I ogle good-looking men, I don't know about this whole "men are more visual" thing, but I'm definitely into cock... I'm just not into a stranger's disembodied cock. I totally agree about a whole man + cock being much more fun.
Anonymous - Dickrolling as a prank or a genuine overture? As a prank I understand it, but the idea that I'm going to go "oh wow this male has the standard-issue male parts, how amazing and sexy" is the part that blows my mind.
I enjoy seeing the standard-issue male parts of a guy who's already sexy to me, but parts alone aren't intrinsically sexy.
Yeeeeah. I definitely appreciate dick, but all on its own it looks at best impressive for "tail of the bell curve" reasons if it qualifies, but mostly just sort of... funny. Or sometimes weird. Naked men are interesting and attractive; just a dick looks like something skinned. Or, in one memorable case, like a baby mouse whose eyes haven't opened yet.
ReplyDeleteLabRat - The "skinned" look really bothers me when guys have gnarly circumcision scars. I know it was done long before they had a choice, and I don't think circumcised men are per se unattractive, but when it's all I can see...
ReplyDeleteOr, in one memorable case, like a baby mouse whose eyes haven't opened yet.
ReplyDeleteI told you, I'd just gotten out of the pool, and it was cold.
Oh no, genuine overture. As in "You are a woman on the internet and I want to get into your pants; clearly a picture of my erect penis will do that!" It baffles the hell out of me. This is what I get for gaming.
ReplyDeleteI guess it's related to "it's how you use it": a disembodies cock tells you nothing about what, hypothetically, you'd get out of it.
ReplyDeleteI don't find a pussy hot without the rest of the woman being there, but I'm not a fan of visual porn, so I'm clearly an outlier.
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As for the mints, I don't think the taste is supposed to be the primary draw in the first place. Though I've never been with anyone who was actually unpleasant down there; conversely, I consume enough coffee and red meat that I can't imagine sucking my dick is a huge treat for anyone in that regard (and yet people have done it)
Maybe not all men feel this way, but a closeup of a woman's genitals with nothing else visible is generally not that great, either.*
ReplyDeleteAs we have discussed previously, I like the taste of pussy, though I've only tasted one. I'm trying to picture (so to speak) what a mixture of pussy and spearmint would be like. It doesn't sound very good.
*Does not apply to boobies.
The (sarcastic) "omg you have standard-issue male parts that is SO AMAZING" thing sums it up perfectly. Because seriously, 99% of the cock shots I've been sent look pretty much identical. I was on www.ratemycock.com once looking for photo references for an art project and I kept forgetting which pictures I'd already looked at.
ReplyDeleteAnd suitors always seem so PROUD when they send the cock shot. The vibe is very "Look at the special, beautiful, astonishing thing I am presenting to you!" ...Kinda reminds me of a cat triumphantly gifting its owner with a severed mouse head.
Ah yes. Cunt mints: invitation to yeast infection, with bonus burn from the mint that I suspect a lot of people don't kink for....
ReplyDeleteI got a photoshopped cock shot once. It had been inflated to Wingerian proportions (... do I need to explain that reference?). It was so hilarious that it wasn't but a little triggery (penises trigger my sexual assault flashbacks, so I don't look at them, I try to get them inside somewhere I can't see them instead).
You're all acting uppity now, but the first time a guy without a picture turns out to be a penis amputee, you're going to be singing a different tune.
ReplyDeleteIt's not "Sci-Fi", it's "SF", and, yes, we can be right weird.
ReplyDeleteJustthisguy - It'sscience fiction, and any shortenings are pretty much optional and unofficial.
ReplyDeleteAt least I didn't say "Syfy."