I get really annoyed at myself when I say something that's anti-(racist, classist, ableist, transphobic, homophobic, et al), or I'm normal and friendly when I talk to someone who's different from myself, and something inside me goes "wow I did good there, I'm awesome." No, self, it's not awesome, it's decent. Fan-fucking-tastic, you treated a human like they were human. You don't get special points. It's good to be decent, but I'm appalled how self-conscious and self-congratulatory I sometimes feel about it.
Ah well. I suppose as ways to be an asshole go, it's relatively minor, and hopefully it doesn't show on the outside too much. (Unless I blog about it or something, and now everyone has to look at me funny. I swear, I'm trying really hard to stop doing this.) And being conscious of it is the first step, or something.
Avenue Q understands.