Thursday, August 20, 2009

Time Management.

Man, lately I just don't have time to be a slut.

I get off work at 6:00, but recently there's been at least an hour of overtime every day, so it's really 7:00 or 7:30. I'm not exactly in man-killer shape then; I'm hungry, tired, smelly, covered in sweat and infectious diseases, dressed like a mall cop, and 45 minutes from town. It'll likely be 9:00 before I'm presentable, and I need to get home by 12:30 to get a decent amount of sleep.

Three and a half hours is plenty of time to have sex. Leisurely, really. But when your task isn't "have sex" but "meet a man, determine if he passes your gut-check, determine if he likes you, seduce him, find a place to go with him, then have sex"--that's a tall order. Even assuming I can find any appealing and willing man, it's still a daunting energy investment to fuck a new person on a weeknight.

I think this is a lot of the reason I fuck Benny so much, even though I'm not all that fond of him--he's there. I can call him when I get off work and have a sure thing by the time I'm done showering. A night when I'll definitely fuck Benny can be worth more than a night where I'll maybe fuck someone better.

I've got to admit, this is a little bit of the appeal of relationships. Christ, that sounds boorish, I'm not saying that's a reason to date someone or it's all dating is. I'm a big fan of emotional connections and support that include but go way beyond sex. I'm just saying--promiscuity's not immoral and it's not unsatisfying, but fuck, it's difficult.

Why scrounge all over town for free milk when you could have a cow at home?


  1. Summa: Wage labor drives you into convenient and potentially boring relationships!

  2. Classless -

    1) I also want to be in a relationship, this is just one of the cruder reasons.

    2) Wages or no, my job would still need doing. I drive an ambulance; I hope that even a classless society would not be an ambulance-less society.

  3. Wow . . . I think that's the first time I've read about Benny, and I don't think it came out very well. Kinda read like I should feel sorry for Benny, actually.

    But then again, he's probably having a lot more sex than I am. Nah, let him deal with the problem of being some hot girl's personal quickie toy as best he can. No sympathy.

  4. But EMT uniforms are hot! :D

    I hope to be going on a ride-along soonish. I'm contemplating taking up the task myself. If nothing else, it's a good zombie apocalypse skill to have. :D

  5. Don- Holly is reorganizing the tags and giving everybody pseudonyms. We've read extensively about Benny under another name. He's not overflowing with need for sympathy.

  6. Don - As LabRat says, "Benny" is a new pseudonym for an old face. He had his chance with me and repeatedly and rather cruelly turned it down.

    Also, I don't think he's particularly unhappy in the current situation--he knows what he means to me and it's about the same as what I mean to him. I'm not exactly leaving him pining.

  7. Why do I think that a sexual relationship between two people who don't particularly respect each other is likely to end badly?

  8. Doing things is not the same as wage labor.

  9. I hope Benny treats you as the convenient hole you are.